Resurrecting the habit of writing regularly on this blog by using it as a place to share and document some of the more interesting content I find.
There was a question on Quora recently: “What are some of the best life tips?” and this answer by Dean Yeong is excellent. It contains number of points and I would like to highlight some of my favorite ones below:
#4. Stop complaining – “it changes nothing at all” – so true. I think all of us go through a phase where our first instinct when things don’t go our way is to turn to complaining. Luckily some realize how wasteful such a habit is and get past it. You are better off spending your energy else where.
#7 Detach your emotions with external things – meaning don’t allow others to influence how you feel and how you go about your business. I think part of this includes surrounding yourself with people who are less concerned about controlling / influencing your feelings and instead are there to share their ideas and support you when necessary.
#12 Take tiny actions, celebrate small wins – this one is big for me personally. Often I witness how people are very dismissive of small steps thinking that they are simply too small to make an impact. When we see people accomplish big things we don’t see the paths that got them there and in truth it often starts with a tiny step. For instance, one Stanford professor seems to have dedicated his all career to this idea with of tiny habits as a way to bring a positive change to your life.
#21 Fail hard, fail often – in my world I translate this to “do not be afraid to deploy” 🙂 Honestly, I don’t do this enough in my life, but when I do, the benefits are very visible. Failing hard and often means trying often and if you combine that with learning from failures that means you are just getting better at what you are doing.
Here are some items on the list that I am reluctant to do, or haven’t done as often as I think I should (#21 is already mentioned above):
#11 Relationship is the place to give – only after having children did I start to learn to live life more selflessly and give to others. It’s still a work in progress and outside of my children I tend to be more reserved and not involved.
#14 Do something that scares you – this one is a tough one. I can count on my one hand how many times I did a scary thing in the last 5 years. That’s a troublesome realization. I need to keep this in mind the next time I get that “this is crazy, let’s not do it” or “I don’t know how to do this or if I should do it” feeling.
#18 Start selling – that’s an interesting one. Couple times in my life I actually did do some selling and was pretty good at it. First experience was selling candy in the market when I was 14-16 years old during summers. Made nice amount of money for cool school supplies and other knickknacks that my parents would not buy. Then later in my life selling my stuff on eBay until I sold all of the things I wanted to get rid off. My first job out of college was private software consulting and writing various programs for a patent lawyer. And then I kind of stopped but I do remember enjoying the process immensely. Just getting a kick out of somebody placing an order and me following through with it and giving back great service and great customer support.
Hope you enjoyed the quora post and my thoughts on it. I am very thankful for people who share their ideas and expertise that they have gathered in their lives. Hopefully all of us can find useful information and learn and share it with the rest of the world.